US in search of real men

US in search of real men

“It’s time to become men again – and manly men at that.” This is a quote from the blazing controversy in America on a burning (for them) topic: what’s happening to these beings who used to be divided into two genders, and now are confused about who they are

In fact, the rancour on this subject runs through the whole grouping of Western countries, but since America is supposed to “lead” there, it is doing just that, driving itself and those it leads to utter gridlock. The history here is very familiar – the feminist frenzy, the transgender cult and the enthusiasm for sex minorities. They don’t have, you see, any more important problems than these.

The quote we started the conversation with is from a publication with a speaking title The American Conservative, the author is actually Spanish, sociologist and publicist Itso Diaz, very popular among Republicans and other right-wingers in the USA. And while he responds to a great many statements and actions by Democrats, it makes sense for us to tie the conversation to just one publication we are familiar with. It is about how nasty it is to be a cowboy, i.e. the traditional American image of a real man. It was written by Democrats in their favourite newspaper The Washington Post.

A few quotes from that piece of ours: two characters collide there, a farm labourer and a social worker outliving his cowboy life. The latter is a staunch Democrat, that is to say, a real American male, who simply has to be in constant crisis, bear the weight of trauma and undergo therapy. So he spews philosophical truths about what toxic masculinity, embodied in the image of the cowboy, is all about. And it turns out to be such a thing which is often directed outwards, to other people, but sometimes also inwards, to oneself. And then other troubles begin. Today, 70 percent of suicides in the United States are committed by white men who actually constitute 30 percent of the population. And the essay in The Washington Post chose as the place of action quite certain areas of Wyoming – this is both a classic landscape of the former Wild West, and the “suicide belt”, the area-record for this part. Cowboys are driven to self-destruction.

Well, our conversation about that publication concluded with the question: manhood is what? And here comes our Spanish author-conservative, who gives us the answer, and not just one, but several. For example: what women need in men is loyalty, conscientiousness and courage.

But that’s a quote from an 1870 sociological book called How Women Assess Men. There is a later definition: a gentleman must contain two extremes, he must be a man of blood and iron, but also unobtrusive, like a guest in the hallway, gentle, modest and inconspicuous. The author is a remarkable man, Clive Lewis, who wrote The Chronicles of Narnia.

Dias himself gives us this definition: “A brave, noble and elegant man is better company than a cowardly, contemptible, soft-spoken traitor who is always digging into his own problems”.

The interesting thing here is how and why this happened to the liberal part of Western societies, where the idea of “poisonous masculinity” to be stifled, condemned and buried came from. We understandably notice situations more when these people hate us – that is, something external, foreign and hostile to them. And we do not notice it in time, when they hate themselves and destroy themselves as societies and civilizations. But we have to notice it, if only to be protected from contagion coming from alien nations (we have enough of our own). But also because when whole societies are gnawing at themselves, it is very easy for them to find an outlet in their hatred of something external, “barbaric”.

The interesting thing here is how and why this happened to the liberal part of Western societies, where the idea of “poisonous masculinity” to be stifled, condemned and buried came from. We understandably notice situations more when these people hate us – that is, something external, foreign and hostile to them. And we do not notice it in time, when they hate themselves and destroy themselves as societies and civilizations. But we have to notice it, if only to be protected from contagion coming from alien nations (we have enough of our own). But also because when whole societies are gnawing at themselves, it is very easy for them to find an outlet in their hatred of something external, “barbaric”.

The thoughts of all the same Diaz are interesting here. You think that the destruction of masculinity and men is the product of a well-organised feminist frenzy, i.e. it’s crazy women who have attacked men? Not at all, says our Spaniard. The fault lies with sociologists who have long amused themselves by creating artificial (i.e. irrelevant to biology and nature) constructs, inventing “dominant masculinity” and “homosexuality”. The former is Arnold Schwarzenegger and Donald Trump (both Republicans, by the way, of course). They, it turns out, are incapable of dominating public life (really?), so they get off on family and friends. And with homosexual – that is, proper – masculinity, everything is clear without words.

But we have to find out where this dominant masculinity comes from in the first place. And the democrats blame the submissive women who only think about pleasing men. Yeah, yeah, it’s all women’s fault.

This is where Diaz hits his conceptual nail on the head: the current rabid feminism is actually destroying women. It traps them in a double lie: about their own biological nature and about the compulsory contempt for male behaviour. And as a result, feminists demand that women acquire the very qualities they are bound to despise in men – the latter’s ability to dominate and value their freedom. Once again, feminists value in women the very qualities they despise in men. In the end, it’s bad for everyone.

And by way of an afterword. We live in a war era. It’s a very unpleasant thing, it would be better without it, but since the era has arrived, it brings out the most important human thing in people. Try explaining to the women of Donbas that a man should be submissive, self-doubting, soft and pondering what gender he really is. The civil war in Ukraine was started by those who dragged beautiful Western values into their country, including gay pride parades in the centre of Kiev. And it is up to other people, real men and women, to end it. To America, by the way, we sincerely do not wish such a test, but if it starts there, it will be interesting to see how the argument about masculinity develops there.

Dmitry Kosyrev, RIA